Our children are a reflection of us

I might get push back because I have not yet had any children, but for at least the last 20 years I have watched people raise their children. One thing I have noticed is the thing they dislike the most about their children is their worse trait.

You have to work on you to change the way your children come out. I have seen people not recognize at all that they are who taught their children that. Ask where did you get that from, and I am lost at they don't see it. The way you talk trash, talk about people, mean spirited, vengeful, whiney, passive aggressive, cuss people out, and just hateful. Your children see you.

Our generation either continued the cycle or completely spoiled their children. Which is bringing out the same outcome. No respect. We just had a family function over the weekend. Not saying all the children because some of us are able to see and decided to take a step back and look at the bigger picture. We realized that our generational curses were bad habits our family has been in cycles of. The children feel so comfortable disrespecting adults. Majority because they see their parents treating them like that or allowing them to do it.

It got to the point where they said they are no longer comfortable hosting events at their home. Is this where we have got. That you have no control over your children that people can not invite you over, and this is family. I can only imagine how they are acting out in the world.

I told God if I could not heal and shake the things I learned out of survival off. I would not have any children because I could not face it. I would not be able to look at the pain, trauma, heartbreak in my teenage child and knew I could avoid it because I was not ready. Yes, I poisoned myself unknowingly for years to avoid having a child I was not ready for. I knew I could not have an abortion and could not have a child being a piece of who I knew I should be for them.

Everybody has a different path, but if it lead to your child having less than they deserve. I did the best I could is not good enough. You have to get ahead of it. It is your responsibility that they have what they need because your choices are the reason they are here. You hav an obligation to them. These kids ain't "different" they are a reflection of you.